Anonymous said: Do you think media representation of women can be changed by putting more women in positions of creative power? How do we stop the increasing sexualization of little girls? What are changes we can take, both micro and macro, to change the views of women? I feel lost b/c there are so many things to change and these awful views are so embedded in our culture that I don't know where to start. What can I do as an individual? What can others do other than educating via word of mouth
I think that in mainstream media that there could be a tipping point where there are enough women in positions of power that leads to positive representation, but we’re nowhere near. A woman wrote the biggest box office movie of the year and the representation of women in it was terrible, and that’s because one woman isn’t enough to lead to change. One woman working within the overarching misogynistic mechanisms of the industry is not going to make things better.
What you can do is as an individual, besides being vocal about negative representation, is supporting media that is created by women that portrays women in a positive way. Be their customers, fund their kickstarters, tell people about the stuff you come across, support them and make their audience as big as you can.
Anonymous said: I've been reading a lot of sex work literature lately & I've found that a lot of pro-sex work people try to ignore the realities of male demand. I see a lot of male accounts that talk about how they hate women. Also one Australian sex worker said she thinks 40-60% of all men pay for sex & this terrified me. I don't want to date a man like this. Also, many of the men who pay for sex talk about how they did it b/c their partners wouldn't do a certain act (or they didn't want to ask due to a raging
Madonna/whore complex) so they went to a sex worker, and this basically tells women they’re not allowed to gave boundaries or be complicit w/ everything a man wants from their body. Combined w/ men who visit strip clubs & such, it worries me that I’ll never have a relationship with a man. Do you think that many men pay for sex? Do you have any advice on finding a good man and/or communicating boundaries? A lot of the men who pay for sex have misogynistic views so that’s a start I guess?
I think many men pay for sex, many more go to strip clubs, and almost all of them watch porn. If you want to have relationships with men (and remember, you’re not required to) and you don’t want to be with men who support the sex industry, be vocal about it as a dealbreaker up front. Don’t give chances to men who take issue with this, try and come up with work-arounds or compromises, or don’t respect your views. Only give your time and attention to men who respect your views and don’t support the industry, and don’t give second chances if they lie.
Anonymous said: I wanted to thank you and applaud you for your post about body positivity and how people think it should only extend to people who aren't fat. I recently jumped down a friend's (who considers herself a feminist) throat for saying "I support body positivity, but I'm worried that it glorifies obesity" in response to a picture of a few acceptably chubby women in bikinis. She also claimed that fat people don't respect themselves, then backpeddled when I told her how fucked up that is. -_-
People are absolutely terrified of the thought of fat people that don’t hate themselves. It scares the shit out of them to imagine that someone who doesn’t fit their view of an “acceptable” human might not be in a constant state of self-flagellation for their inability to conform. It’s fucking mind-blowing.
Stop rewarding boys for common sense/decency 2014